Martha Stollberg, CCE Family Educator

December 03, 2008

When expectant parents come to childbirth classes, usually about eight weeks before giving birth, reality sinks in. They’re thinking, “We’ve had the shower. The baby’s room is ready. Okay, I guess we’re really going to have this baby.” Then many feel a strong sense of anticipation and ask, “Are we ready?” In discussion with educators and other expectant parents, they discover they really are.

With all the information resources today, expecting parents often come to class knowing lots of information. Childbirth classes provide an opportunity to discuss information they’ve found with others, and to separate the wheat from the chaff. I also remind parents to ask their doctor questions. Doctors know you are facing a totally new situation and are happy to share their knowledge with you.

Expectant parents also know much more than they realize about birth and baby care. In childbirth classes, we have the opportunity to remind them of all they know. A woman’s body knows what to do to give birth; women have been giving birth over the millennia. And the expectant father already knows how best to comfort the mom-to-be.  He knows her – what gives her comfort and encouragement. 

Sometimes dads feel too much pressure, like they’re going to have to deliver their baby themselves. The good news is that just being a supportive presence makes the difference. Research shows that moms have better labor and birth experiences when they have a supportive partner present. In class, we can add to their knowledge with information about what would make a woman in labor more comfortable. Most of all, we let them know they needn’t worry; they should participate in ways that feel natural to them.

And when it comes to taking care of a baby, I tell parents in my classes, you already know more than you think. I like to talk about “inside babies” and “outside babies.” I tell parents, you’ve been getting to know this baby as an “inside baby” for nine months. You won’t be meeting a stranger. 

Of course, taking care of an “outside” baby will be a new experience. But mom and dad will know what he needs—sleep, food, shelter, warmth, love, clean diapers. It’s just what you’d expect.

And when you do have a question, the nurses and family educators at Columbia Center will welcome your call day or night. I had two of my three children at Columbia Center, so I know how wonderful our staff is at helping parents gain confidence with the early parenting skills.